Your Domestic Violence Survival Kit

If you are still in the relationship:

  • Think of a safe place to go if an argument occurs; avoid rooms with no exits, or rooms with weapons (kitchen)
  • Think about and make a list of safe people to call
  • Keep change with you at all times
  • Memorize all important numbers (including your social security number)
  • Establish a code word or sign so that family, friends, teachers, or coworkers know when to call for help
  • Think about what you will say to your partner if he (or she) becomes violent
  • Remember, you have the right to live without fear and violence

After you have left the relationship:

  • Change your phone number
  • Screen calls
  • Save and document all contacts, messages, injuries, or other incidents involving the batterer
  • Change locks if the batterer has a key
  • Avoid staying alone
  • Plan how to get away if confronted by your abuser
  • If you have to meet your partner, do it in a public place; try not to go alone
  • Vary your routine
  • Notify school and work contacts
  • Call a shelter for battered women

Safety Plan

Telephone numbers

Police or Sheriff's Department ____________________________________

Family members/friends to alert____________________________________

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Domestic Violence/Sexual assault program___________________________

Counselor/therapist________________________________________________

Clergy member______________________________________________________

Lawyer_____________________________________________________________

Other_____________________________________________________________